Do not speak, unless it be from experience. There are so many people to speculate, who lead second hand lives, accept what's handed down to them and have no clue what life as an adventure means. They're not worth listening to. Instinct and gut feeling are severely underrated. Individuality it seems is a murky word. No I will not conform. No, I will not listen to someone's solutions for my life, because I really don't think you have the answers I need. Because you barely even know what my life is. As much as I appreciate your involvement, over indulgence and over interference in ways you think I don't suspect, I don't need that.
Every parent wants only what's best for his / child. Of course, they're parents. They don't get that you can perfect and improve only what the child already is and loves; NOT what they think the child should be or should love. Is the kid argumentative? Does he back his arguments with logic? Have you ever, casually, just run a movie about legal practice across him? Does he like it? She loves prancing around the place all the time? Has she ever been to ballet? Has she experienced the emotions in it? Has she seen a story unfold and has she fallen in love with it? Does your child seem socially awkward, hate conversations, social dos and people in general? But you at least accidentally discover he's a closet writer? Did he pour out his heart and mind in ways very few can think of with words only some may think to use in that way? Did he take to making patterns in the sand and fool around a lot with the crayons you got him? Did you show you things you hadn't thought of before? Did he paint things in a way you wouldn't have thought could be painted?
THAT..is your child. That and that alone is what can be perfected. But not by pushing them into it. By teaching them to have fun with it. Teaching them to love it. Please don't insult my intelligence or anyone else's by saying that's exactly what you did, as a parent. You know better. But more importantly, WE know better.
Every parent wants only what's best for his / child. Of course, they're parents. They don't get that you can perfect and improve only what the child already is and loves; NOT what they think the child should be or should love. Is the kid argumentative? Does he back his arguments with logic? Have you ever, casually, just run a movie about legal practice across him? Does he like it? She loves prancing around the place all the time? Has she ever been to ballet? Has she experienced the emotions in it? Has she seen a story unfold and has she fallen in love with it? Does your child seem socially awkward, hate conversations, social dos and people in general? But you at least accidentally discover he's a closet writer? Did he pour out his heart and mind in ways very few can think of with words only some may think to use in that way? Did he take to making patterns in the sand and fool around a lot with the crayons you got him? Did you show you things you hadn't thought of before? Did he paint things in a way you wouldn't have thought could be painted?
THAT..is your child. That and that alone is what can be perfected. But not by pushing them into it. By teaching them to have fun with it. Teaching them to love it. Please don't insult my intelligence or anyone else's by saying that's exactly what you did, as a parent. You know better. But more importantly, WE know better.
